No sex in jail house weddings

| 18/08/2014

(CNS): Despite the common misconception that prisoners housed at HMP Northward enjoy an easy life, including marital benefits, the prison director has confirmed that jail house weddings convey no particular advantage to prisoners and do not lead to conjugal visits. Neil Lavis said that no serving inmates at Northward are allowed private visits with their spouses and those prisoners who choose to marry while serving a sentence receive no particular benefits as a result of formalising their relationships with their partners on the outside. The prison boss told CNS that the jail sees around two wedding ceremonies per year and although prisoners have a right to marry should they wish, Lavis says he encourages most inmates to wait until they are released before tying the knot.

Lavis said that prisoners and their partners are offered counselling before marrying and he advises people to wait for obvious reasons.

Following the news that Brian Borden, who was convicted last month of the murder of Robert Mackford Bush in a gang related killing, had married his girlfriend in a wedding ceremony at the prison, Lavis confirmed that like any other prisoner Borden had a right to marry. However, he said, there would be no advantage to him as an inmate who is now convicted of murder and serving a mandatory life sentence or his new wife because of their decision to marry.

Lavis confirmed that jail house weddings follow a set format: the ceremony is performed in the prison chapel, and prisoner and spouse are able to invite up to ten friends and family to the celebration. After the ceremony the inmates can enjoy around 30 minutes socialising and eating with their guests but the entire wedding is supervised by prison officers and there are certainly no champagne corks popping.

The couple are not allowed to be alone at any time during the nuptials, Lavis explained, adding that there is no policy at all at HMP Northward which allows any prisoner to visit in private with a legal spouse.

Although some prisoners who have been serving life or long sentences and are likely to be released on license in the near future are allowed to visit their familiesas part of the transition to release, they are still not given any privacy visiting rights in the prison itself.

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  1. Anonymous says:

    What you mean "It does. It shouldn't, but it does" praise God some provision is finally made in the Law to delay the :"usage" of staying in this country just to "cotch up" and make like harder for the poor individual who is being "used just to stay in Cayman".  Every loop hole is being implemented to make Cayman look like the gettos, read the results in last weeks paper apparently a nice lady is overseas right now fighting for her life suffering from violence attack. Stiffer laws needs to be made to avoid these recurring incidences. To the two married in or out of prison please remember, Christ died for you all, and I bet my life the lack of love is what cause the temper and wicked thoughts of most incarcerated people. Pray and trust in God, He can removed mountains from your lives. God bless?!

  2. Anonymous says:

    All I can say is that I ain't in prison but in that particular regard i may as well be.

    • Anonymous says:

      All i can say that is the manager of hotel california has said  NO SEX in prison , but she is not in prison , but she is married to a caymanian so she can stay in cayman and visit her husband now and then . NO sex do you think i could like that , no and i am a 74 year old caymanian .

  3. Anonymous says:

    Oh please perhaps they should be allowed to have sex with willing women instead of each other.

    What this prison administration does not realise is that when these men come out they are worthless and cannot fit back in the real world

    I know because I have hired many of them. They cant be left alone, want to talk all day, are weak, short winded , cant take the heat.

    This is very sad and most of them end up right back in northward because its just easier to survive there.

    In prison the inmates must work, exercise and learn otherwise they will not be better off when they come out.



  4. ReAlDeAl says:

    We all know sex in the prisons happens…blah blah, so can we move on to something a little more important- perhaps mount trashmore, getting these worthless punks in gangs stealing and robbing us people off the streets, stopping the motorcyles and the kids driving through town not insured and underage, education system….and you get the point!

  5. Anonymous says:

    Ganja, cell phones and facebook are all illegal too – but they manage to get around that!

  6. Anonymous says:

    Just like some regular church weddings.

  7. Anonymous says:

    Is there not a provision under the marital law that the consummation of the marriage is necessary; otherwise, the marriage is null and void?

    • Anonymous says:

      Corbett vs. Corbett is the case.

      Involves a Tranny and Guy getting married, but the marriage was declared void as they hadn't consumated it properly i.e. man and woman.

      • Anonymous says:

        Immigration – take note!

        • Anonymous says:

          Not a chance. They are incapable of applying their own law. Half of our problems are directly attributable to their incompetence or corruption, or a mix of both.

  8. Anonymous says:

    So, it's just the prisoners that are on the road crew that get to have conjugal visits then..



  9. Cym for Life says:

    Well … if they marry, its a personal affair. We don't know the beginning and we don't know the end. It is a heart-to-heart matter.

  10. Anonymous says:

    No sex, but apparently lots and lots of ganja makes its way inside Northward.  Nice job, guys.  :-\\

  11. Anonymousand says:

    So that’s prison life?
    Never been locked up but Im married, young, hetero, healthy+havent had sex in months!

    • Anonymous says:

      it is a very well known fact-single men have more sex. Most women marry for security and babies.

  12. Anonymous says:

    Wait until the Human Rights crew learn of this. Then it will be the prisoners right to have these visits. 

    • Anonymous says:

      Correct me if I am wrong, but are the marriages even legal if they have not consumated?

  13. Anonymous says:

    Please name name.  Please. Please do something about this. Just this once

  14. Anonymous says:

    Wow, 2 weddings per year?? Hope the CIO and DG are looking into this and having proper checks as to whether these are marriages of convenience. My GOd what a mess…if foreigners they will claim right to remain in Cayman vs being deported after out of prison.

    • Anonymous says:

      I don't think marriage to a Caymanian enables one to avoid rollover under the new laws.

      • Anonymous says:

        It does. It shouldn't, but it does.

        • Anonymous says:

          What do you mean by "It shouldn't"? Let's put aside work permits and jobs for the moment. Do you believe that after entering into a marriage and nine years have passed, that Immigration should come to someone's door to tell them that they have to separate and the spouse leave the island for one year?

        • Anonymous says:

          Are you nuts? How could you imagine that it would be right to cause a non-Caymanian spouse to have to leave his/her spouse, and perhaps children, in Cayman for a year?